Secret girlfriend

Adam_Bestler · January 28, 2009, 7:17pm

Boredom . . .

OAOSwartz · January 28, 2009, 7:28pm

um…i think he has a secret but its not a gf

aj-quick · January 28, 2009, 7:30pm

Best Answer

If your SON had a magazine of naken MEN I am doubting that he has a secret GIRLFRIEND. I’m thinking that your son it probably questioning his sexuality, or has already determined that he is gay.

The best thing to do is be open, honest and truthful. Tell him you were spying on him, and going through his belongings when you came across his hidden magazine. Ask, don’t acuse, and if he doesn’t want to talk to you about it, respect his wishes. Yelling or preaching to him about how “wrong” homosexuality is is not going to get him to open up to you.

You were wrong for snooping through your 17 year old son’s belongings. Did you think you would find his secret girlfriend under his mattress?

EDIT: Let me see if I understand. You will not allow your son to be gay because the bible says it’s wrong. You will not talk to your son about condoms because you feel it’s wrong? So, your son is supposed to what… sit in his room alone and miserable because he might be feeling or doing something his mother would not condone? I think that being a good mother means listening to your son and accepting him for what he is. Whether he is gay or not is not something you have control over. Neither is his going out and having sex (or safe sex) if that is what he wants to do. Are you going to chain him to his bed so he can’t leave? Drop him off at school and pick him up so you know he isn’t doing something on the way there or home that YOU disapprove of? Give the kid some breathing room and hope you raised him right. I’m assuming that he will be graduating in May… are you going to forbid him from going to college because he WILL encounter homo-sexuals, bi-sexuals and heterosexuals engaging in safe sex. There will be sex, drugs, drinking, partying, swearing. Loosen the reins a little bit and believe that you reared him well. You’re going on about being a “good mother” then believe that you did the best you could. No matter how much you preach your beliefs, opinions and morals he is his own person… not a clone of you. Trust that he is doing the right thing for himself, as you should have taught him to do… and not to listen to what others say about him.

enchanted_unicorn · January 28, 2009, 7:51pm

so that’s what denial is.

Adam_Bestler · January 28, 2009, 8:18pm

His secret girlfriend does in fact live under his mattress.

enchanted_unicorn · January 28, 2009, 8:36pm

she missed this poster on his wall somehow.

gbmatt · January 28, 2009, 10:03pm

Ive shown that to EVERY single one of my friends i cna find at school today lol…fuggin hilarious

dr_logan · January 29, 2009, 12:05am

Religious mothers in denial.

Quendor · January 29, 2009, 12:59am

I knew atheism was the right choice!

kingpin · January 29, 2009, 2:50am

Sigh. Ignorance is bliss.

rockstar232007 · January 29, 2009, 4:42am

What, the subject of this topic, or the “atheism” comment, cause’ I’m confused…and I don’t like bein’ confused! lol

Dan_AKA · January 29, 2009, 6:33am

Her son is clearly gayer than a Rocky Horror group during Mardi Gras during happy hour at a dance club.

That’s the topic.

Krenzy · January 29, 2009, 12:47pm

“100% queer. He LOVES the cock”…to quote Jay.

EDIT: It’s just the quote, I’m not out to offend anyone.

Rhapsody · January 30, 2009, 6:25am

Uh huh.

Sorry to get tangential but for some reason the original post made me recall this letter:

Just wanted to add this: I’m not out to offend anyone either but I suspect that if I saw my husband donning my red lace and very expensive Chanel lipsitck, I would umm…well…be slightly freaked out.

Crix · January 30, 2009, 4:26pm

I am.